I want to be married...
Ever have those days where you just feel like, I'm ready? Today is one of those! I feel like I am ready to find that one person God has for me and to get settled together, start a new life, a family, and get the ball rolling on our ministry...but God has different plans in mind for the time being. I am glad that I have the opportunity to think and pray for my future spouse before I even meet him. God is preparing a might man for me, just as much as He is preparing me to be more and more like the Proverbs 31 wife my man deserves! Here are some articles I ran into of some example portraits of a godly man & wife.
Portrait of a Godly Husband
A Godly husband loves his wife sacrificially. He seeks diligently to understand his wife. He lovingly teaches her the truth of God's word both overtly and through his conduct. He is concerned about the spiritual well being of his wife and prays for her and with her on a regular basis. He does not rule over his wife or family but is instead there to serve not be served. He is the biggest servant in the family. He follows through on his commitments to his wife and children. He finds joy in serving his wife and family. He takes seriously his responsibility to lead and shepherd his family knowing that it is to the Lord he must give an account. He listens attentively to his wife so as to grow in his knowledge of her. He realizes his wife is not 'one of the boys' and treats her with gentleness at all times. He places the interest of his wife above his own.
He is self-controlled, not easily angered, kind and humble. He is not ruled by alcohol or other forms of intoxication. He does not indulge in ungodly passions but instead buffets and disciplines his body to bring it under the authority of God and His word. He is ruled by Christ and places himself completely under His authority. He is not wise in his own eyes but relies on the wisdom of God as revealed in His word. He does not lean on his own understanding. His decisions and actions flow from his study and meditation on God's word rather than from his own desires.
He takes great pleasure in his wife's body and makes love to her joyfully, frequently and unselfishly and is faithful to her. He recognizes that his body is not his own but also belongs to his wife.
He uses his speech to edify and build up his wife and children. He guards his tongue, using it for blessing rather than cursing. He joyfully and abundantly provides for the financial needs of his family. He praises his wife to others and treats her as a precious treasure. His life reflects the fruit of the Spirit as found in Galatians 5. He is a God pleaser not a man pleaser.
Dear Lord, I pray that where ever in this world my future husband is, that you are helping him to become more and more like you. Instill in Him the passion and the drive to serve you wholeheartedly, despite the temptations or redirections of the world. Guard his heart and his mind. Grant Him to grace to withstand the enemy. Create in Him a pure heart. I pray that He is richly blessed and loves you more than anything. Give him the courage to face his fears and find his strength in you. Arm him with the necessary tools to break down my walls and get in! Lord, I pray for my husband. Thank you for his love, joy, peace, generosity, compassion, sincerity, and his love for YOU and for me!
Portrait of a Godly Woman
A Godly wife submits herself to the headship of her husband as ordained by God. She recognizes that the most free place she can be is under the authority of her husband. She 'brings her husband good and not evil all the days of his life.' She is industrious and creative, making the most of the family's resources to provide abundantly for the needs of her children and husband. When her husband is in error before the Lord, she seeks to win him over by her behavior rather than by nagging, complaining or other verbal means. She does not grudgingly minister to her husband but does so joyfully and heartily. She raises her children to respect her and their father and to honor God.
She is ruled by the word of God rather than her own emotions, desires, or her own ideas about the way things 'should be.' She walks in close fellowship with the Lord so that she is ruled by the Spirit of God rather than her own flesh. Her life reflects the fruit of the Spirit as found in Galatians chapter 5.
She realizes her body is not hers alone but also her husbands and she shares it with him in joyful lovemaking on a regular basis.
She looks not only to her own interests but also the interests of her husband. Her husband is able to have full confidence in her. Her behavior brings her husband respect. She is a helper to him in many areas, using her own particular gifts and training to benefit the family. She has a gentle and quiet spirit which makes her beautiful in the eyes of God. She uses her speech to build up and encourage her husband in faith. She is not critical of her husband to him or to others. She is ruled by a fear of the Lord.
Lord, I pray that each breath that I take is one step closer to becoming the Proverbs 31 wife my husband deserves. Help me to grow in patience, abide in love, increase in humility, break down the walls and become more vulnerable. Teach me to love in the way that you love, Lord, unconditionally. Grant me the grace to forgive and be forgiven. Remind me to pray for him, especially now, as he is out amongst to world. Keep my heart steadfast and eyes focused completely on you. Let me run the race you have in store, not swaying to the left, nor to the right, and let out paths become one. I pray that I have to seek you even harder to find him! God, mold and make me into your image to be the best bride, mother, and daughter of Christ I can possible be. Thanks for making me, ME!
[these are some great scriptural references too: Ephesians 5, 1 Corinthians 13, Proverbs 31, Colossians 3, 1 Peter 3, 1 Timothy 3, 5 and elsewhere!]
♫♫♫Beloved - Tenth Avenue North♫♫♫
Portrait of a Godly Husband
A Godly husband loves his wife sacrificially. He seeks diligently to understand his wife. He lovingly teaches her the truth of God's word both overtly and through his conduct. He is concerned about the spiritual well being of his wife and prays for her and with her on a regular basis. He does not rule over his wife or family but is instead there to serve not be served. He is the biggest servant in the family. He follows through on his commitments to his wife and children. He finds joy in serving his wife and family. He takes seriously his responsibility to lead and shepherd his family knowing that it is to the Lord he must give an account. He listens attentively to his wife so as to grow in his knowledge of her. He realizes his wife is not 'one of the boys' and treats her with gentleness at all times. He places the interest of his wife above his own.
He is self-controlled, not easily angered, kind and humble. He is not ruled by alcohol or other forms of intoxication. He does not indulge in ungodly passions but instead buffets and disciplines his body to bring it under the authority of God and His word. He is ruled by Christ and places himself completely under His authority. He is not wise in his own eyes but relies on the wisdom of God as revealed in His word. He does not lean on his own understanding. His decisions and actions flow from his study and meditation on God's word rather than from his own desires.
He takes great pleasure in his wife's body and makes love to her joyfully, frequently and unselfishly and is faithful to her. He recognizes that his body is not his own but also belongs to his wife.
He uses his speech to edify and build up his wife and children. He guards his tongue, using it for blessing rather than cursing. He joyfully and abundantly provides for the financial needs of his family. He praises his wife to others and treats her as a precious treasure. His life reflects the fruit of the Spirit as found in Galatians 5. He is a God pleaser not a man pleaser.
Dear Lord, I pray that where ever in this world my future husband is, that you are helping him to become more and more like you. Instill in Him the passion and the drive to serve you wholeheartedly, despite the temptations or redirections of the world. Guard his heart and his mind. Grant Him to grace to withstand the enemy. Create in Him a pure heart. I pray that He is richly blessed and loves you more than anything. Give him the courage to face his fears and find his strength in you. Arm him with the necessary tools to break down my walls and get in! Lord, I pray for my husband. Thank you for his love, joy, peace, generosity, compassion, sincerity, and his love for YOU and for me!
Portrait of a Godly Woman
A Godly wife submits herself to the headship of her husband as ordained by God. She recognizes that the most free place she can be is under the authority of her husband. She 'brings her husband good and not evil all the days of his life.' She is industrious and creative, making the most of the family's resources to provide abundantly for the needs of her children and husband. When her husband is in error before the Lord, she seeks to win him over by her behavior rather than by nagging, complaining or other verbal means. She does not grudgingly minister to her husband but does so joyfully and heartily. She raises her children to respect her and their father and to honor God.
She is ruled by the word of God rather than her own emotions, desires, or her own ideas about the way things 'should be.' She walks in close fellowship with the Lord so that she is ruled by the Spirit of God rather than her own flesh. Her life reflects the fruit of the Spirit as found in Galatians chapter 5.
She realizes her body is not hers alone but also her husbands and she shares it with him in joyful lovemaking on a regular basis.
She looks not only to her own interests but also the interests of her husband. Her husband is able to have full confidence in her. Her behavior brings her husband respect. She is a helper to him in many areas, using her own particular gifts and training to benefit the family. She has a gentle and quiet spirit which makes her beautiful in the eyes of God. She uses her speech to build up and encourage her husband in faith. She is not critical of her husband to him or to others. She is ruled by a fear of the Lord.
Lord, I pray that each breath that I take is one step closer to becoming the Proverbs 31 wife my husband deserves. Help me to grow in patience, abide in love, increase in humility, break down the walls and become more vulnerable. Teach me to love in the way that you love, Lord, unconditionally. Grant me the grace to forgive and be forgiven. Remind me to pray for him, especially now, as he is out amongst to world. Keep my heart steadfast and eyes focused completely on you. Let me run the race you have in store, not swaying to the left, nor to the right, and let out paths become one. I pray that I have to seek you even harder to find him! God, mold and make me into your image to be the best bride, mother, and daughter of Christ I can possible be. Thanks for making me, ME!
[these are some great scriptural references too: Ephesians 5, 1 Corinthians 13, Proverbs 31, Colossians 3, 1 Peter 3, 1 Timothy 3, 5 and elsewhere!]
♫♫♫Beloved - Tenth Avenue North♫♫♫
